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When doing the research for this section, the information fell into two general categories, how to and the history of masturbation.

Masturbation has a long history of being thought of as a bad or negative thing considered something done by mentally defective people in the 18th and 19th centuries. There is a lot of written material on how to prevent it, most of it very cruel and abusive, from tying down of hands, spiked rings and cages to genital mutilation and physical and verbal punishment. Continuing to the present as recently as 1994 when then President Clintons Surgeon General Dr. Elder was forced to resign/was dismissed for suggesting that Masturbation was normal and is a part of human sexuality.

It really has only been since the release of the Kinsey report in 1948 and the subsequent outing that masturbation is practiced by all genders, classes and ethnicities that masturbation is coming out of the sexual practices closet. Although many conservative social and religious groups still preach against it, the modern medical and physiological communities know masturbation to be a healthy part of everybody's personal sexuality.

Masturbation is found in all age groups from infancy to adulthood. Planned Parenthood's White Paper on Masturbation is an amazing reference. 

The health benefits of masturbation are many; both physical and emotional. The most obvious being stress release. Preparing the body for continued sexual activity or as a substitute when a partner isn't available for whatever reason. You can use masturbation as a sleep aid too, it helps the body and mind focus on it and not the previous day's issues. Masturbation is a wonderful form of birth control. It also can help lessen menstrual cramps in some women. Masturbation is a normal healthy part of a person's sexual well being, and being comfortable about your own body ands its needs helps promote a sense of personal satisfaction and a higher self esteem, and who doesn't want more of that in their life!

Persons dealing with emotional and mental health issues are given masturbation as a tool to help with sexual dysfunctions from premature ejaculation in men and the inability to orgasm is women.

How to masturbate? Where do you even start with a question that has as many answers as there are persons alive on this planet? Each of you has bodies that will respond in their own unique way to masturbation. There are a few general guidelines to start with, though.

Know you body and learn where all the parts are. Men have it a bit easier here but ladies if you are not familiar with where everything is grab a mirror and learn where the labia, vulva and clitoris are. Locate the vaginal, anal urethra openings. Don't forget the rest of your body during masturbation your whole body is your playground, thighs nipples whatever turns you on can be incorporated into your time. Pick a fantasy to help your mind and body get into the mood and make sure you have some alone time. Draw a bath and make an evening of it, pamper yourself light candles, burn incense, put on an adult dvd or chose some erotic book or magazine to help with your fantasy. Using a vibrator or toys during masturbation can give your hand and increase sensation

Whether exploring with your hands or with toys, use a lubricant to help with stroking or insertion and to keep from chafing delicate tissues. Masturbation should not be uncomfortable or painful. Switch hands or take a break if needed. Thru practice and exploration you will learn what works and feels good for you and remember there is no "right or wrong way" to masturbate.